Each sect has its own rules for the funeral service. The most formal and conservative is the Orthodox Jewish burial ritual, while the reformist sect is considered the most liberal of the three. Usually, the funeral service is seen as the beginning of the ceremonies and not as the end. The burial in Israel varies for the three Jewish sects. The Orthodox sect uses more the Hebrew language, the conservative uses only half, whereas the reform does not use the Hebrew but the Kadish. However, the underlying funerary format is the same for each sect. The funeral confirms the life lived and the prayers that praise life. The family or the rabbi give the scriptures and the praises. Kadish is the traditional prayer of death, pronounced only by close relatives of the deceased. The prayer of Kadish’s death differs from the traditional liturgical prayer of the rabbi at the funeral. All the cults have the tradition of going to the house of the deceased after the funeral.
There are traditional seven days of mourning called “Shiva”. While the grieving family is at home during the seven-day mourning period, funeral officials visit the house to offer their condolences. The focus is on people who share feelings and memories instead of religious teachings. In many of the funerals in Israel for many of the Jewish communities, part of the memorial service is celebrated in the house of the deceased. In the most conservative sects, only the closest friends of the family visit the deceased house on the first day of Shiva. Some may attend the memorial service every day throughout the year to remember the deceased. Often, the tombstone is revealed only a few months after the funeral. Family and friends meet and on the anniversary of the death, the name of the deceased is read aloud in the synagogue.
The Jewish faith after death is different from Christianity. If the deceased had a long life and many achievements, that is the reason for the celebration. There is no concept of a happy life after death, and death is a dark event for Jews. Jewish sects do not celebrate death by dancing or drinking over the departure of a person to heaven. There is practically no way to personalize an Orthodox Jewish burial service. In the sect of the reform, it is up to the rabbi to decide whether he complements the service or not. Some rabbis do not allow songs, music or dances at the funeral or memorial service. These may be allowed in a separate service thirty days after death. The most traditional services take place in a synagogue, but liberal sects maintain service in any number of places.